One large issue that gay couples undoubtedly face is discrimination from the outside world...

I’ve heard it espoused that male gay couples have it easier because they’re both of the same sex and they’re minds work in more similar ways than the male and female mind. On the surface this is a perfectly reasonable assumption, but I wonder just how accurate it is. I think gay couples experience just as many trials and tribulations as a heterosexual couple would, although I would imagine there are some variances in their difficulties.

One question I often wonder about, and this is a little silly I grant you, but is a gay couple doomed if both of the guys are into anal sex and both prefer to be delivering the pounding? Could a couple like that work out an agreement where they would switch off who was the receiver on a daily basis? Or, would it be to big a bridge to cross and ruin the relationship? Continuing down that road, what if a couple gets together and one of the guys doesn’t like anal sex at all and the other one loves it? It seems like this could be as damaging to a relationship as anything else. These are sex problems just like any other relationship would go through; the context is the only difference. In some ways, the sexual problems in heterosexual relationships are far easier to deal with.

Another thing I’ve heard and that I’ve seen in action is the idea that in homosexual relationships one partner assumes a more male role and one partner assumes a more female role. I’m not really speaking in terms of genders though; it’s more about who the nurturer is and who’s the more dominant of the two. In fact, some heterosexual relationships flip around these roles because some women just don’t have the nurturer gene. I suspect that if you had two of the same personality types in a relationship that the relationship would struggle to survive.

One large issue that gay couples undoubtedly face is discrimination from the outside world. Even in today’s forward thinking society people are still loathe to think about two men being together, let alone getting married and establishing a family. There are some long held beliefs that the only definition of a family is a man and a woman. Of course this is a pretty old school definition, but it’s difficult to change the ingrained thinking of people in a short time period. It can take generations for mindsets to come around to the tolerant way of thinking. If you consider the fact that people are still uncomfortable with interracial marriage and relationships in a lot of parts of the world I think you’ll see just how long it might take for gay couples to be widely accepted.

When you really sit down and think about it I think you’ll find that sexy gay men are basically the same as heterosexual couples with just a few details changed. They experience the same difficulties, they feel the same pains, and they certainly deserve the same treatment as everyone else.

Stephen